As some of you may already know, I am writing a book. It’s a memoir or a ‘non-fiction narrative,’ since I am not famous and memoirs are typically written by famous people.
It’s a story, my story, written from my perspective, about going through the struggles of infertility, miscarriages, the adoption process, and finally becoming a family through two open adoptions, giving birth to one biological child, and one state foster-care adoption.
As a hopeful adoptive parent waiting for an open adoption, you can get ‘the call’ any day starting on the day your portfolio is placed into ‘the pool of hopeful adoptive families.’
We went from hoping once a month for a positive pregnancy test, to a daily dream of a phone call that could/would change our lives, forever. I’m sure you can imagine how vulnerable that can make you feel.
Then, we went through some experiences that I have never even heard of anyone else going through, especially with our second adoption. While I knew a few people that I could relate to, I wanted to know the nitty-gritty stuff without having to ask intrusive and deeply personal questions. You know, the stuff that is only written in books.
I searched everywhere for a book written by someone (anyone) that had gone through something similar. I needed to feel like I wasn’t alone, but I couldn’t find anything. This is one of the reasons why I’ve decided to write our story.
Through endurance, a little faith, and a lot of perseverance we got our happy ending. My husband and I have four children (three adopted and one biological), with only four years and six days between our oldest and youngest.
I need some help from you. It’s a long story, almost 140,000 words already written. I’m trying to drop it down to 100K words in the third draft. For the next few weeks, I’ll post ‘scenes’ from my story. Please help me out and let me know what (if anything) interests you and what I can leave out.
The title needs tweaking too. I’ve titled this story, “Hopes, Dreams, Prayers, and Wishes: our Journey to Becoming a Family,” because I tell my children that they are, ‘My hopes come true, my dreams come true, my prayers come true, and my wishes come true.’ While this is sweet, I’m worried it’s way too long for a title. Most titles are just one to three words long.
Please subscribe, give me your thoughts, and suggestions, I need the help!!